My guild is pretty casual, pretty laid back. We raid twice a week, and do what we can. We will never make it to the end of a heroic tier a month after the tier is released, and we often run with a less-than-optimal group composition. Because that isn't as important to us as being able to raid with a decent group of people we get along with. Even to the point of dragging my sorry, under-geared Mage alt into a raid rather than have to get someone from out of the guild (It *was* nearly the end of the last expansion, but still).
Although, that being said, I wouldn't inflict said alt on another raid without a LOT more practise. Ever. Again. I don't expect to be boosted by the guild for a toon that I only really leveled because it was there and I could, but I digress.
In Cata, and in Wrath before, the guild raided at times that fit in very well with my personal commitments. I'm sure that there were other people in the guild who the times and days didn't suit, but they worked for me. This meant that with few exceptions, I raided every week. I enjoyed it. I expected it. Yes, I did have to sit out some weeks, but that is completely reasonable and understandable.
We come to Cata, and the guild has changed raid days. Let me make it very clear that I am not asking the rest of my guild to work around me. I am only ONE part of a team. Let me also make it clear that if you are part of the first night of a run, you absolutely get dibs on the second night of the same run and I would never want it to be otherwise. I am not asking for any preferential treatment in any way.
But the first run of our current schedule doesn't work in with me. I can't make 9 out of 10 of those first runs, and consequently, I am not doing a lot of raiding. (LFR doesn't count). I have missed the first kills for both bosses we have killed in the current tier, and realistically that is unlikely to change. I had never realised the amount that I looked forward to that camaraderie, that working together as a group, that sense of achievement of learning and improving and progressing, until I didn't have it any more. These people aren't just strangers that I associate with, they are friendly, genuine people who welcomed me back unreservedly after I had abandoned them to a different server for 6 months or more. They are a group that still has multiple people that are still there, in that guild, from when I first transferred Saundin over to Shadow Council from Amal'Thul at level 60ish, many, many moons ago - and by multiple people, I can rattle off the names, about 10 of them (Which I won't as I'll miss someone and offend them ;) ).
I don't want to have to try to find another group that knows me, that accepts me, that I get along with. But I now start to wonder how long I will keep playing if I slowly move out of the raiding sphere, and become just an occasional stand in. Is PvP my thing, Pet Battles? Achievements? Even leveling, and playing my umpteen alts and getting their professions up? No, I now realise that what I want is to raid. Casually, on the few days a week that suit me. At a time that suits me. With a group that suits me ... With flexibiliity to work around my work and social commitments. Yea, because I'm so easy to please, and becasue I have no right to expect everyone to fit in with me.
It's funny how it happens, sometimes these things sneak up on you, sometimes they just smack you in the face. Do I still have things I want to do in WoW? Absolutely. Are those things enough to keep me in the game in and of themself? That, is now the $64,000 question.